I have never had sex, but I have tried now twice with my boyfriend, and it has been incredibly painful. It felt like there was a barrier inside me, and the second time I bled. I feel like I am relaxed, and my boyfriend is very gentle and slow, but it still really hurts — more than I think it should. I am able to use tampons — I'm not that small — but I don't know what the problem is. Is it supposed to hurt this much? Could there be something wrong?
Most people think that losing your virginity always hurts — a doctor explains why that's total BS
Best of Dr Watsa: First-time sex problems
Subscriber Account active since. There are two main tales that get spun around having sex for the first time. One, that as long as you have sex with the right person, it'll be magical and beautiful. And two, no matter who you have sex with for the first time, it's bound to be awkward and painful as hell. But, which tale is true?
Here Are Real Answers to Your Biggest Questions About Losing Your Virginity
OK, so you're thinking about having sex for the first time and you just have SO. Will losing your virginity hurt a lot? And like, how much? How do you know you're ready? Does doing XYZ count as sex?
Overcoming painful virginity loss and pain in early intercourse is a widespread occurrence. Are you a woman who is new to the world of sex, or are you considering having penetrative sex for the first time? Have you recently lost your virginity and were disappointed to find that you experienced painful virginity loss sex? Has this pain made you afraid of future sex encounters?